10 Reasons Why You Aren’t at Peace With Yourself

10 Reasons Why You Aren’t at Peace With Yourself
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Are you happy? If not, when did you last feel content? Every time you feel unhappy, the world seems a dull and unappealing place. There may be various reasons why you might not feel at peace with yourself, so if that’s the case, here are 10 recommendations that you can use to make improvements and be happy.

1. Your focus is directed too much on your past mistakes

The past is notorious for stealing our joy from the present. We always worry too much about what could have been or how things could have been different.

We spend too much time reliving a mistake that we made and regretting our choices that in the end, we miss the joy in the present.

Learn to accept that you cannot change the past, move on but take the lesson with you.

2. Fear of the unknown

Everyone goes through the fear of the unknown at some point in their lives. This is whereby you choose to stick to a relationship even if things are not working out, or you choose to stick to your job even if you are being mistreated or abused because you fear that if you move on you might never find another job or another spouse.

It is normal to fear what the future holds, but never let this hold you back. Happy is the man who travels the path less trodden.

3. You don’t take care of yourself

Sometimes life leads us to focus too much on taking care of others. For example, if your spouse or a close family member is suffering from a long-term illness, if you take care of children or elderly relatives or you just seem to never put yourself first.

As a result, we might get absorbed too much into taking care of others that we forget to take care of ourselves and be happy. In the end, all the exhaustion and neglect will start reflecting in our mood swings.

Learn to take care of yourself before you can care for others.

4. You try too hard to please everyone

You might be having a self-identity crisis where you are still trying to find yourself. In most cases, this leads to imitations and trying too hard to please everyone. In the end, you will come to the realisation that you can never please everyone and what you are doing is hurting those who are close to you (including yourself).

You can never please everyone. Different people have different preferences. Never be afraid to be you, and the right people will come your way and stay.

5. You are in your comfort zone

When was the last time you tried something new? When did you go to a new restaurant or try out a new recipe? When did you ever take a risk? Maybe the reason why you are not at peace with yourself is simply that your life is boring and you are used to following the same routine daily. You are so predictable to the extent that everyone around you knows your next move.

If you want to be happy get yourself out there and go to a party or take a vacation to a random destination or if you’re single, throw caution to the wind and go on a date. Dye your hair a crazy color or better yet get a full makeover. It doesn’t matter what it is just do whatever takes your fancy. Excitement always comes with the element of surprise. Write a bucket list and start trying out everything on it.

6. You aim for perfection so can’t be happy

Nobody is perfect. And nobody will ever be. Aiming for perfection is setting up yourself for failure. Accept that all you can give is your best shot – and that’s OK.

On the other hand, do not expect others to be perfect. Because if you keep searching for the perfect spouse, the perfect friend or the perfect employee, you will end up disappointed. In whatever you do, give it your best shot and do not be so anxious that no matter the outcome, you will be happy that you did your best.

7. You take things too personally

When you are over-sensitive and take things too personally, you are piling up negative energy which in turn will leave you feeling like you are not at peace with yourself.

Learn to take things lightly. Never hold grudges and learn to forgive quickly (including yourself).

8. You eat too much junk

Various studies have proven that junk food contains too much sugar and carbohydrates. This combination always leads to a sugar crash, and the result is emotional deflation.

A good recommendation would be to eat more foods rich in nutrients and drinking plenty of water on a regular basis. This will boost your energy levels and in turn give you an emotional uplift. Eating junk food is not totally forbidden but should be done in moderation.

9. You don’t exercise regularly

Sitting around the house doing nothing can lead to a disruption of your blood circulation. This is the perfect recipe for a dull day and a restless you.

When you exercise, you boost your blood circulation, especially to your brain. Your body also releases endorphins and oxytocin. These hormones are responsible for making you feel happy and refreshed. Feeling bored? How about hitting the gym for a while or going for a swim? (Thank me later).

10. You spend too much time indoors

There is always some relief that comes with breathing in fresh air and floating in the ambience of a perfect outdoor breeze. Spending too much time indoors can be depressing because your world revolves around the same tiny space.

There is a whole world out there full of possibilities for you to enjoy. Go for an afternoon walk and enjoy nature or meet new people. You never know whom you might run into at the park.

You can give yourself permission to focus on your and your happiness. Ask yourself what makes you happy, then go out there and do it. Your happiness can only be achieved by you. It doesn’t matter where you are at the moment, what matters most is what you plan to do about it. Now go and be happy! 🙂

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